Peaceful Leave Taking

[lavendertook]

My mom died tonight.

I called the hospice unit right before getting ready to go to bed to ask the nurse how Mom was doing and to ask her to give my mom my love, as I've been doing these past several nights. And as the receptionist put me on hold while the nurse was with my mom, Mom took her last breath.

I saw her again last Saturday with my brother, but she did not open her eyes or speak and it is anyone's guess if she could still hear then, but I talked to her all while I was there and swabbed her lips. She had been sleeping through since Thursday night last, and on pain meds, and passed on so peacefully tonight after 14 years of battling cancer and chemo.

The phone--it was such a fraught thing with us. I'm very grateful I heard her call to share love with me at the very last.

Comments

*Hugs*

[polydad]

More *hugs*, in case title was insufficient.

[wordweaverlynn]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[bibliogramma]

I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs*

[spiralsheep]

I'm sad for your loss (but glad things went reasonably smoothly at the end).

[crantz]

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. *hugs*

I'm glad it was peaceful.

[hederahelix]

I'm sorry for your loss. (Some day I'm going to learn more faith-specific messages of condolence, but I'm not going to wait until I can say something really appropriate to tell you how sorry I am that you've grieving.)

{{{hugs}}}

[saraqael]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[monkey5s]

I'm sorry for your loss, but I am relieved that she is at peace now.

I'm also sorry I've been letting social media slide lately, so I only just saw this now, a week after the fact. But I expect you can still use strength for coping with the aftermath, so I am wishing some your way. Please let me know if I help you in any way!

[hanarobi.livejournal.com]

Lora just let me know. Your post has such a sense of peace and closure. You and your brother will be in my thoughts.

My condolences on the loss of your mother.

*hugs*

[baranduin.livejournal.com]

I hope you can sleep deeply and restoratively tonight, with only gentle dreams to soothe you. *hugs*

Welcome to the club.

[febobe.livejournal.com]

Oh, honey. Oh, honey, that was awful, it happening while you were stuck in hold hell, but - you had that call with her. I know it doesn't make it any easier. I know it doesn't make it hurt less. She's at peace, and I pray you will be blessed with peace in the midst of this difficult time too. <3 Hugs snugs.

Love,
Febobe <3

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*hugs you so, so much*

[esmeraldus-neo.livejournal.com]

Lots of hugs to you.

[grey-wonderer.livejournal.com]

(((((Hugs))))) words don't do much at a time like this but you and your family are in my thoughts.

[romeny.livejournal.com]

I'll keep you and your brother in my thoughts and prayers.

[ladysnaps.livejournal.com]

i'm so sorry for your loss sweetie. i know you and your brother were going through a lot with caring for your mom. hang on the comfort that she passed peacefully.

(((hugs you)))

[addie71.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your brother are in my thoughts.

[claudia603.livejournal.com]

oh sweetie. *hugs you tightly* I'm so sorry.

You and your family will be in my thoughts. I hope I will see you soon to hug you in person.

[jan-u-wine.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. So glad that you were able to go up and see her on Saturday (my mom's nurse assured me, after she'd had her massive stroke, that she could still hear all that was being said. Even if there is no comprehension, I like to think that your voice, heard for so many years, and loved for so many years, is recognized somewhere in the deep folds of the mind, and that it brings some comfort)

Leave-taking is ......hard, no matter what the relationship has been. But harder, I think, for those who've had difficult relationships. In the moment of loss, your world changes immeasurably. I'm so glad that you were wise enough to go to her, to be with her and your brother in those last moments. It will bring you some comfort in the sad times to come. I have to think that somehow we are all so very connected....what else explains the 'coincidence' of your calling and expressing your love at the moment of her passing?

No matter how fraught, your mom loved you and you loved her. And that is, at the end of the day, what counts.

Thinking of you, dear LT, with love.

[mews1945.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry, my dear. I hope you will find comfort in your loss. Knowing she passed peacefully while you were there on the phone must help *hug*

[ink-gypsy.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I hope you can take comfort in your Mom passing peacefully after such a long, difficult struggle. I'm happy you had that last connection at the very end. *hugs*

[shirebound]

I wish I was there right this second to wrap you in my arms. Be good to yourself, and I hope you can feel the love and support surrounding you right now.

[aliensouldream.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry, love. She must have been strong to come through so much. I'm sure she knew you were close and enfolding her in love. *hugs close*

[cali-se.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts.

[ancalime8301]

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