Brain Fog

[lavendertook]

I've been moving around in a fog and just can't get it together. I swam today and have no idea how many laps I did in 45 minutes--just couldn't keep track. And I've been getting to bed too late and up too late. Poor kitties. I will get myself to bed on time tonight and try to get myself back on schedule and hopefully that will help and I can put myself back together. I have no idea what stage of grief this is. I'm a slow processor. Others still in the same place?

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[zlabya]

Sounds like both emotional shock and depression to me. I'd been like that the first couple of days. I've had a few good things to focus on, like anniversary celebrations (see my blog post). Find yourself some good things--maybe a favorite book to reread, or playing with the kitties. Ivan and I have both had fun with his two favorite toys--the feather toy and a long gray shoelace.

[lavendertook]

I have a brunch to go to tomorrow with my Jewish lesbian group and then we're going to see the film Denial. I just hope I have the focus for driving in DC tomorrow. If I don't think I have it tomorrow, I will cancel.

[alatefeline]

<3 I am in a different place but it has oddly cycled to be similar in some ways. I feel nauseated and discouraged and I want to sleep extra but I can't manage to nap; I've run through doing loads and loads of chores to distract myself and now I can't concentrate on those. Heard from other people doing stuff like that too. So, yeah, there are tons of people still in what I would classify as the "shock" stage.

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Somehow it's motivating me to think that it is a great big "f* you" to Them to make food for my little family of neurodivergent queers, even though I don't feel like it at the moment. And other things, but I can plan about 1 hour ahead right now and I REALLY hope that I will get another little piece of energy tomorrow morning.

You deserve a gold star / hug / cheer / whatever reward you like for going swimming, for listening to your body and getting sleep, and for taking care of self and kitties. Processing takes the time it takes, and moving through it is an art, not a science. I admire you for still being here and still trying.

[lavendertook]

*hugs you* Thank you, bb. I went into high adrenaline anger for the first days, so it will take some time to find balance. Take good care of you, too.

[alatefeline]

*hugs* Yes I will. Promise.

[lavendertook]

*hugs*

[spiralsheep]

::love::

[lavendertook]

*hugs*