i think it is especially painful to forgive oneself when the *person* in our charge is an animal, helpless, in the main, to disagree with our choices for them. Equally (and moreso) distressing when it is a child, for they are souls put in our care, human souls, and probably less able to disagree with our choices.
But....even with all that, we muddle through. And we learn. And we do good (MUCH good). And we do bad (hopefully....very little).
It makes a difference, too (as you point out) the spirit in which we *do* our badnessessssss. Are we flippant, are we uncaring and arrogant about the process and/or the result? Then I think we can say that we did wrong WITH malice aforethought and should not have the honour of attempting to help another being. For truly, those who are callous to the suffering of others at *their own hands* are not attempting to help at all, no matter what they may call themselves.
(you are not to be found in this group, btw, and i hope that you will grieve your Ostra and then go on and nurture with new knowledge. I know you will)
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Date: 2013-02-02 11:53 pm (UTC)But....even with all that, we muddle through. And we learn. And we do good (MUCH good). And we do bad (hopefully....very little).
It makes a difference, too (as you point out) the spirit in which we *do* our badnessessssss. Are we flippant, are we uncaring and arrogant about the process and/or the result? Then I think we can say that we did wrong WITH malice aforethought and should not have the honour of attempting to help another being. For truly, those who are callous to the suffering of others at *their own hands* are not attempting to help at all, no matter what they may call themselves.
(you are not to be found in this group, btw, and i hope that you will grieve your Ostra and then go on and nurture with new knowledge. I know you will)
*hugs you back*
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