But see, they're not oppressive douches! You're just getting stuck on their words with the way you want their words to mean the way people are using the word--it's not their intent at all! They're not aiming it at anyone personally, because they're not saying anything racist/homophobic/ transphobic/sexist/ableist/classist or any of those mean words. You should know that they are good people and don't mean anything--how you react to what they say/do is you not seeing their good intent, and if you're hurt ( and that's a big IF because it's not as if your feelings really matter the way you get stuck on such insignificant things), it really is your own doing. It's not their fault. And you're the one making them feel bad by complaining. They are delicate flowers! How dare you be so mean to them! It's like you think your feelings matter, you big egoist! Who are you to ask them to do anything differently just to make you feel welcome or of any significance whatsoever! Geez!
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Date: 2012-08-18 06:19 am (UTC)Did I miss any part of the script?