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I went out with some women from my Greenbelt Pride group last night to go see the just released lesbian romance, Imagine You & Me. OK, it was very predictable and no Oscar winner, but I loved it. Every thing's better with two gorgeous women in love in it, right? I think so. (-:
Three of the women I went with I've met before. C is a lovely hoot. She elaborated to us on the fashion crimes of lesbians in some Maryland bars, which had me giggling and lightly scolding her about the problem of putting fashion pressure on other women--'twas funny. It was nice to drive back from such a schmaltzy sweet movie with her in the back chirping about her wedding plans with her partner, along with S and L, who are an adorable couple, talking about theirs and their honeymoon plans.
It's been a while since I've had a night out with other queer grrls and that felt good. The fourth women is very cute, single, and lives around the corner. Um. I emailed her to see if she wants to go for coffee sometime this week. Wish me luck!
******SPOILERS FOR IMAGINE YOU & ME**************
It was mainly a fluff movie, with trite tropes of love at first sight--like what do people have against love at eleventh sight, huh?--and everyone is unrealistically and uniformly nice, but some of what gave it a lack of verisimilitude was actually a nice fantasy strength. It was a lovely fantasy to have no one react homophobically to Rachel and Luce's lesbianism, and there is some real work done by such fantasies.
It was also nice that Hector was so cute and nice--Rachel left him solely because she loved Luce, not because she was fleeing from a patriarchal jerk as in Fire and Leeana(if I got that last title right--it's been a while since I saw that one). The three characters in the triangle were all doing their best to do no harm to each other, which really isn't an overly used trope.
And lastly the way they handled child sexuality was kind of lovely and risky, if the audience reaction was any indication. I heard people draw in a breath when the little girl asked Luce if she was going to get married and Luce told her she's gay and explained what that means--and this is a DC crowd. so that was a risk to present to an American audience. This was immediately following a scene that was half played for cutes and half to satirize the love at first sight trope as the little girl fell in love at first sight with a little boy. The little girl then responded to Luce that she still planned to marry her best girlfriend, and that Luce's confession was no big deal to her. At the end of the movie, the little girl comforts Hector that if he's still lonely in ten years she'll marry him, so it was nice and fluid and easy about children's view of sexuality in the nonhomophobic and flexible world of sexuality the movie presented. And that really isn't trite at all.
A cleverer script could have pushed out what triteness was there, but the charming actors did the best they could with it. Anthony Stewart Head was, of course, a delightful absent minded father. And yeah, Piper Perabo and Lena Headey are really hot. But I just wanted to show above that there really are more reasons to like the fantasy the movie presents than for the hotness and predictable happy ending. And since there's such a history of lesbians in the media winding up crazy, villainous, or dead, and certainly never happily ever after, the predictable happy ending ain't all bad.
Three of the women I went with I've met before. C is a lovely hoot. She elaborated to us on the fashion crimes of lesbians in some Maryland bars, which had me giggling and lightly scolding her about the problem of putting fashion pressure on other women--'twas funny. It was nice to drive back from such a schmaltzy sweet movie with her in the back chirping about her wedding plans with her partner, along with S and L, who are an adorable couple, talking about theirs and their honeymoon plans.
It's been a while since I've had a night out with other queer grrls and that felt good. The fourth women is very cute, single, and lives around the corner. Um. I emailed her to see if she wants to go for coffee sometime this week. Wish me luck!
******SPOILERS FOR IMAGINE YOU & ME**************
It was mainly a fluff movie, with trite tropes of love at first sight--like what do people have against love at eleventh sight, huh?--and everyone is unrealistically and uniformly nice, but some of what gave it a lack of verisimilitude was actually a nice fantasy strength. It was a lovely fantasy to have no one react homophobically to Rachel and Luce's lesbianism, and there is some real work done by such fantasies.
It was also nice that Hector was so cute and nice--Rachel left him solely because she loved Luce, not because she was fleeing from a patriarchal jerk as in Fire and Leeana(if I got that last title right--it's been a while since I saw that one). The three characters in the triangle were all doing their best to do no harm to each other, which really isn't an overly used trope.
And lastly the way they handled child sexuality was kind of lovely and risky, if the audience reaction was any indication. I heard people draw in a breath when the little girl asked Luce if she was going to get married and Luce told her she's gay and explained what that means--and this is a DC crowd. so that was a risk to present to an American audience. This was immediately following a scene that was half played for cutes and half to satirize the love at first sight trope as the little girl fell in love at first sight with a little boy. The little girl then responded to Luce that she still planned to marry her best girlfriend, and that Luce's confession was no big deal to her. At the end of the movie, the little girl comforts Hector that if he's still lonely in ten years she'll marry him, so it was nice and fluid and easy about children's view of sexuality in the nonhomophobic and flexible world of sexuality the movie presented. And that really isn't trite at all.
A cleverer script could have pushed out what triteness was there, but the charming actors did the best they could with it. Anthony Stewart Head was, of course, a delightful absent minded father. And yeah, Piper Perabo and Lena Headey are really hot. But I just wanted to show above that there really are more reasons to like the fantasy the movie presents than for the hotness and predictable happy ending. And since there's such a history of lesbians in the media winding up crazy, villainous, or dead, and certainly never happily ever after, the predictable happy ending ain't all bad.
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BTW, this might be a good cross-post to
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OK. I'll sign up and post. (-: I'll go extract the second and third paragraphs and then put the rest there.
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Thanks for the cross-post!
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Yw. (-:
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Greenbelt?
Could it be a coincidence that the biggest thing I did in Greenbelt was act in a Greenbelt Community Theater production of The Children's Hour?
Are you from PGC?
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I've lived in PG for the past dozen years. I was born in Camden, NJ, spent my first 22 years in Collignswood, NJ (just outside Philadelphia), moved down to Chapel Hill, NC for grad school and stayed 9 years, then moved up to College Park for MORE grad school, and moved the next year to Greenbelt and I've been here since. I like living in PGC and am somewhat attached to Greenbelt. So when did you live in PGC?
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I miss Montgomery and PG counties... Plus, most of my family is in the MD/DC/VA/WV area...
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*ducks to avoid a thwapping*
I think an Uncle of mine had a t-shirt with "London. Paris. Rome. Greenbelt" on the front - *L*!
Heard of the film; glad to hear it's good! And this is the first I've actually known of your orientation. I'll cross my fingers for you and "the girl around the corner" (not to be confused with "the girl next door"!
*G*).
(yay! Steeleye Span!!!!)
You know, I keep forgetting where people are from. I used to live in the DC area, too - down in Fairfax County!
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Ehehe! I thought everybody knew!
(yes--I've really been into my Celtic music again lately)
Yes, you were in Springfield.(-: I'm from NJ, but have been in PGcounty the past dozen years.
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Wow - you remember that? Good memory!
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Sometimes good and sometimes not. (-:
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Ah, but I'm well-versed on the Kinsey scale! We used to have many a discussion about it at Bit of Earth - especially re: Frodo, Sam, and Rosie. *G* Also had a pretty mixed group (on the scale) over there.
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What do you mean by "gender-mixed"? Celibacy isn't an easy identity to hold in this society; people often won't accept it as such; I have a friend who claimed it as an identity. And I've read some thinkers who take it up as a queer identity. I've been celibate for a while, though not by preference, and am working on that and hoping the world will cooperate--it doesn't cooperate with me very often.(-: I tend to self-style femme, as you've seen me, so I used to wear rainbow rings around on a pendant everyday and queer buttons, so other queer grrls could spot me and to do my duty of being Out, but I haven't been doing that so much the last couple of years--I want a chance to wear other necklaces, too! (-: And I haven't turned my new car into a rainbow mobile like my last car, yet. So yeah, people who don't know me well often don't ID me as queer, sometimes even when I'm very vocal about queer issues and using pronouns of my inclusion.
Hehehe! Yeah, slash fandom is predominantly heterosexual women but still pretty fluid--I've never felt like the only queer woman here. (-:
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"Gender-mixed" - just what I said. I don't wear dresses or heels; pretty much always wear trousers and shirts. And - looking at what I have on today - it's men's gramicci trousers (although that's at least partly due to size!), a denim shirt, and hiking boots. No purse; I use my trouser pockets and a credit card holder instead. But I do wear a necklace, and recently added a bracelet, and have a ring - but, now that I think of it, it's much like a man's ring. So that's what I mean by gender-mixed, for my visible identity.
And I only claim celibacy because... I haven't really dated/had a relationship for about 15 years... and had only a handful of dates before that. So, if you're not active...? *G*
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Thanks for the review.
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And Ty. The invitation has been accepted, so now wish me luck about tomorrow--I've gotten rusty in the dating department so I feel nerrrrrvous. (-:
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Good luck on finding the girl of your dreams! :D
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Ty. (-:
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