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RRRR, here be a post.
Remorse, Regret, Racism, and Respect Within and Without Fandom:
Thoughts on the D_D mods responses to the miscegenation discussion and LJ's responses to fandom
Taking a theme from Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, since the HP community is at the center of pan-fandom discussions lately, and keeping this general so as not to put spoilers here, the last book takes time to illustrate that there is a great deal of difference between remorse and regret. The former, remorse, can lead the person who experiences it towards emotional growth. The latter, regret, is a dead end n itself. Remorse involves empathy--grief over other people who you feel you have wronged. Regret involves sorrow for losing what is useful to you, an opportunity or a benefit. Remorse and regret play an important role in determining whether you are expressing an apology to someone or are making an excuse or justification for your own actions. One is outward directed; the other inward.
At the risk of being pretty sanctimonious, I'm setting these ideas here to foreground my calling out of continuing lousy behavior that I haven't seen rectified yet within fandom, and without.
( Some really nice work being done, followed by some really troublesome dealings )
Remorse, Regret, Racism, and Respect Within and Without Fandom:
Thoughts on the D_D mods responses to the miscegenation discussion and LJ's responses to fandom
Taking a theme from Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, since the HP community is at the center of pan-fandom discussions lately, and keeping this general so as not to put spoilers here, the last book takes time to illustrate that there is a great deal of difference between remorse and regret. The former, remorse, can lead the person who experiences it towards emotional growth. The latter, regret, is a dead end n itself. Remorse involves empathy--grief over other people who you feel you have wronged. Regret involves sorrow for losing what is useful to you, an opportunity or a benefit. Remorse and regret play an important role in determining whether you are expressing an apology to someone or are making an excuse or justification for your own actions. One is outward directed; the other inward.
At the risk of being pretty sanctimonious, I'm setting these ideas here to foreground my calling out of continuing lousy behavior that I haven't seen rectified yet within fandom, and without.
( Some really nice work being done, followed by some really troublesome dealings )
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