And, presuming there are (at least) two spectra of causes/effects here then my tiny violin for cisexual-but-possibly-not-cisgendered gay men and cisexual-but-possibly-not-cisgendered lesbian/tomboy/butch women is, frankly, very tiny indeed when we're in a conversation/situation which is not All About Them* but should instead be centred around the lived experiences of intersex/transexual/third sex people.

* As someone who grew up in a time/place when "tomboys" were unacceptable and, for example, many careers/basic financial services/necessities of life were exclusively available to men, Them has sometimes been more of an Us but I still always had cisexual privilege and some cisgendered privilege and I own it.