Yeah. I do well understand the feelings of torn loyalties, especially if the harasser has been a good friend to you for which you are beholden and can understand reasons why you may decide to maintain the friendship.

But an awful lot of people who aren't in that position are spending a lot of time trying to come up with policies that would be less excluding for the harasser, because they think a lifetime expulsion would be too mean to him, which is an awful lot of time worrying about his feelings, at the expense of the feelings of the sexually harassed.

And I really, really don't want to be in a room with these people. Why would I spend my fun time going to a con with people who have more empathy for sexual harassers than the victims of harassment?